Mother-of-two killed herself after sending boyfriend a video message

Mother-of-two, 33, killed herself minutes after sending her Royal Marine boyfriend a video message asking him to tell the children that ‘mummy’s head got too sad’

  • Amie Collier, 33, killed herself after sending a video and text to her boyfriend
  • Anthony Clay raced home from Trafford shopping centre after seeing the text
  • Mr Clay only received the video on his phone after making the tragic discovery 
  • The mother-of-two was grieving the death of her stepfather, the inquest heard
  • For confidential support call the Samaritans on 116123 or visit a local Samaritans branch. See www.samaritans.org for details

A young mother-of-two killed herself just minutes after she sent a harrowing eight-minute video message to her Royal Marine boyfriend explaining why she was giving up her battle against her ‘demon’ depression.

Amie Collier, 33, said it would be unlikely Anthony Clay would ever be able to understand the full extent of her illness and said she felt like a ‘bad mum’ due to her condition.

She accompanied the heartbreaking video with a text to Mr Clay saying: ‘Please forgive me for leaving my children. Tell them I love them so much but that mummy’s head got too sad. Please make sure they are well looked after and my mum is kept safe and well.’

Amie Collier, 33, killed herself minutes after sending an eight-minute video message and text to her Royal Marine boyfriend asking to ‘forgive’ her 

Mr Clay, who was shopping with the couple’s young daughter for a suit and swimwear for Ms Collier, raced home after seeing the text.

Ms Collier, who was a PR executive for a recruitment firm, was taken to hospital but died six days later. It emerged the video which had a large file size only arrived on his phone after he made the tragic discovery on July 16 this year.

At an inquest at Bolton, Greater Manchester, Mr Clay wept as the eight minute video message was read out by a coroner.

In the footage Ms Collier, from Wigan, said: ‘You don’t think you could ever understand what depression is, like massive depression.

‘I have tried everything but it doesn’t go away. The worst thing someone can tell you is to ‘cheer up and stop being sad.’ You do want to stop but you can’t do that. I have tried – I have tried everything.

‘You’re constantly reminded that you’re a bad mum because someone is better.. I don’t know where the demon has come from, I don’t know where it started – I just know I’m a sorry case. I haven’t felt good about myself for a long time and it is not easy to get up in the morning.

‘I just love the kids so much and I just want people to know it is going to kill them.’


Ms Collier, who was a mother-of-two and PR executive for a recruitment firm, attended a GP surgery four times in relation to ‘anxiety and low mood’ and was prescribed anti-depressants

The hearing was told Ms Collier had been grieving over the death of her stepfather named only as Graham. She had been getting counselling via the Marines but she was drinking heavily at home.

Mr Clay told the hearing: ‘Behind closed doors there was times where she would just drink and drink and it did concern me to the point where I said: ‘Amie – you’re drinking too much.’ That would end up in an altercation and sometimes I would assess the situation and would probably have a little drink to align myself with her.

‘We had spoken about numerous things that have happened over the course of time. Sometimes it was very much a case of she put a face on for the world. Everywhere she would go, she would be the heart and the soul of the party. 

‘She was the star who walked in the room but I knew from living alongside her that smile wasn’t always the case.

Anthony Clay (above left) was shopping at Trafford Centre with their young daughter for a suit and swimwear for Ms Collier when he received the text message 

Mr Clay raced back home after receiving the text message. He performed CPR on Ms Collier, who was then taken to hospital but died six days later

‘Her friend did mention when she was in hospital she wasn’t 100 percent after her son was born. When her daughter came along she was very happy but it seemed to be a little bit over time went by she just wasn’t where she was prior to the birth.

‘I had a conversation with her father in France and he said when Amie went to visit him there was a woman who suffered with postnatal depression herself. From that she had a conversation with Amie and that when she got back to the UK she needed to pursue the avenues to have that looked into.

‘She had researched what to do and to go and speak to someone – but when she spoke sometimes she was just her strong self. I didn’t feel by looking at her that anything like that was an issue.

‘There was just times where she would feel a little bit down, later on down the line she mentioned something to us and then went and spoke to a doctor.. Some days she would drink I would never see any issues – other times with drinking it was just drinking, drinking two bottles of wine and then she was looking for a third. Sometimes I would just flat out say no and then it would end up me and her rowing.

‘It ebbed and flowed throughout the time we were together. Amie approached me and said that she wanted to go for counselling. I approached my hierarchy in the Marines at which point the Marines agreed the sessions and provided them.

Mr Clay said his girlfriend was ‘the star who walked into the room’ but knew from living alongside her that her smile ‘wasn’t always the case’

‘I went by myself but after that I went away on rotation and Amie went alone. Our neighbour next door told us she found Amie crying on the decking outside the back of the house.’

He added: ‘I spoke to Amie by phone and she said she didn’t realise how close Graham was to her. She said Graham was always there and he would always help her. She said he was always on hand like the father figure. I didn’t realise how Graham’s passing would affect her.

‘As soon as we got back Amie said ‘will you just take our daughter out for a bit’ and that she just wanted a minute to herself. I thought it was fair enough as she worked full time and looked after the kids as well. The next day we were in Superdry at the Trafford Centre when I got the text from Amie.

‘I bundled my daughter under my arm, got in the car and went back. It is supposed to take 40 minutes I think I got back in about 25. I phoned my dad as I thought that would be the quickest means to get back to the house.

The hearing was told Ms Collier was grieving the death of her step-father at the time

‘The keys were in the door when we got back and my daughter was just following me as I went round into the back garden. I rang the police as my thoughts were she’s not in the house. 

‘My marine training in terms of preservation of life kicked in and I did CPR on Amy.’

A statement from an unnamed GP said Ms Collier had attended the surgery in relation to anxiety and low mood on four occasions and was prescribed anti-depressants. 

On July 1 she had an appointment in which she indicated she was having some thoughts of self-harm but ‘wouldn’t do it as the children were a protecting factor.’ 

She was due to visit his father in France and even had her bags packed.

Recording a conclusion of suicide, Coroner Catherine Cundy said: ‘Amie presented something of a mixed picture to those closest to her. She had clearly experienced the loss of her step-father but was making active plans to visit her father in France.

‘On July 16 she sent her daughter off to the Trafford Centre as her partner needed to buy a suit. She messaged him asking to buy a swimming costume and he sent her pictures of ones she might want. Within a matter of minutes she sent a message asking for forgiveness, asking him to make sure her mother was safe and well.

‘He drove back at speed, she didn’t want him to come home, the phone went dead during the course of that contact. I’m satisfied that her video message indicated that events going back many years had led to her depression with which she felt she could no longer cope.’

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Baby is killed by her cat after it fell asleep on her face in Ukraine

Baby girl is killed by her cat: Mother finds nine-month-old daughter dead after pet went to sleep on the child’s face as she had a nap and suffocated her

  • Snezhana, 22, left baby Alexandra asleep in a pram outside while she did chores
  • Cat climbed into the pram and fell asleep on the nine-month-old girl’s face 
  • By the time Snezhana realised what had happened, the girl was not breathing 
  • Medics spent 40 minutes trying to revive the girl, but their efforts were in vain  

A nine-month-old baby girl has been killed by a cat after the pet fell asleep on her face and suffocated her, Ukrainian police have said.

Nine-month-old Alexandra had been left asleep in her pram in the back yard of 22-year-old mother Snezhana’s house while she did housework.

Snezhana, who lives in the Vinnytsia region of eastern Ukraine, around 125 miles from Kiev, came to check on the girl when she found a cat asleep on her face.

Mother Snezhana, 22, from eastern Ukraine, was doing housework when she put nine-month-old baby Alexandra outside in her pram

While Snezhana wasn’t looking, one of the family’s pet cats got into the pram and fell asleep on the girl’s face. By the time Snezhana realised what had happened, the girl wasn’t breathing

The cat jumped out of the pram and ran away, and Snezhana discovered that Alexandra wasn’t breathing. 

The mother called her local paramedic and an ambulance but they could not save the baby, who died of asphyxia.

Halyna Zakharchuk, the village paramedic, said: ‘There was a smell of milk, a warm place, the cat got inside the pram to warm up.

‘The baby was well dressed, her arms were out. When we came, the baby was still warm… We found the baby in the state of clinical death.

‘I ran there, the ambulance arrived quickly. We could not help… we were trying to resuscitate her for 30 to 40 minutes.’

Local policeman Pavlo Darmorgrai said: ‘The mother saw the cat lying on the baby…sleeping on her head. The baby was already dead.

The family owns two cats, though it is not clear which one was responsible for the girl’s death

Police said the cats were likely attracted to the pram because it was warm and smelled of milk, before deciding to fall asleep there

‘The body was sent to forensic experts, an autopsy was performed. The preliminary opinion of the expert is that it was asphyxia.

‘There are no more injuries on the baby’s body.’

The baby was Snezhana’s only child with her husband Alexander.

The family had two cats, shown by the Ukrainian TSN News channel.

It was not clear which cat caused the tragedy.

Police say the death was ‘accidental’.

‘We are not taking any measures against the mother,’ said Darmorgrai.

‘We understand it is a huge psychological problem in the family now.’

Medic Halyna Zakharchuk said she spent 40 minutes trying to revive Alexandra, but her efforts proved to be in vain

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